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Being Selfish is Okay

Each week I was hoping to fill this space with sage advice that may help a reader through a tough time.  However, events that took place in my life this past weekend have left me drained of energy and void of creativity.

The hardest lesson I learned was that standing up for yourself does not mean you will feel good about that decision.  I don’t want to get into the details of what happened, but I will say that I had to put my mental health needs in front of the wants of my relatives, and it was not accepted with open-mindedness and understanding.  I was called selfish and told that I should put my health second.  I did not give in to the noise, and instead of feeling guilty as I expected to, I just feel tired.

The quote from Wreck-It Ralph keeps playing through my head: “And I say, Zangief you are bad guy, but this does not mean you are *bad* guy.”

My relatives may hate me, but I was able to get out of bed and not have to miss my classes.  I am not overcome with so much anxiety that I am physically sick and lacking an appetite.  I can still function within my life.  That is what matters most at the end of the day.  As individual people we cannot shape our lives around the happiness of others.

Going against the grain isn’t an easy task, especially without a strong support system made up of people who truly support you.  But luckily, I have that support system that has allowed me to be confident and secure in my choices.

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