The selfie…has devolved into narcissism.
The selfie, arguably, can be a great thing. Taking a picture of ourselves on a day we feel cute—every now and then—and sharing it online promotes and reinforces selfconfidence, which can be a perpetual struggle for a lot of us. That being said, many of us now abuse the selfie self-love, and have taken it to a ridiculous level.
Selfies are almost exclusively the only photos people post to social media anymore, and it’s depressing. We’ve become so into ourselves and trying to promote a certain image or lifestyle on social media that we forget there are plenty of other things going on in the world outside of ourselves.
Many of us love to travel, for instance, which is the best tool for learning about other cultures and people and expanding our perspective in the world, while providing invaluable experiences.
There are so many things we could and should be focusing on besides ourselves, and the people on our friends list want to see what we’re seeing. Unfortunately, though, many people treat those experiences as selfie photo shoot opportunities, and use the people, landscapes, and buildings as props in their selfies.
It’s okay to take pictures of other things and people that don’t involve us whatsoever. The selfie phenomenon has devolved into narcissism, and perpetuates the idea that it’s all about us. It’s not. Most of the time we’re not even doing anything in our selfies anymore, we’re bored in the car or bored at home. Nobody wants to see that on a daily basis. Go outside, get a hobby, grow as a human being.
Social media can be a great tool for sharing with our friends and family, but when the only thing we’re sharing is ourselves, it’s safe to say the selfie obsession, and self-obsession have gone too far.
Wearing your favorite outfit? Take a selfie. Bad hair day? Take a selfie. Just feel like it? Take a selfie. Clicking the capture button is really not going to lead to the downfall of civilization as we know it.
Sharing selfies is like sharing a little bit of yourself.
Selfies are a form of selfexpression. And it would be hard to find a more pure expression of yourself than your face, the very thing that identifies you as you, in the most literal form.
To fault folks for expressing themselves in forums explicitly meant for mutual self-expression seems asinine at best, and painfully out of touch with human nature at the least. Taking a selfie doesn’t make a person self-obsessed.
Royalty used to pay great sums for their portraits, and would display them proudly. At the turn of the century, families would save for a daguerreotype and place it on the mantle. And now, effectively anyone with a phone in their pocket can snap a quick photo, then upload it to Facebook. The era of the selfie has long been the goal.
In the realm of Facebook, particularly, it seems to make sense to share selfies— the word “face” is even part of the site’s name. We log on to the site to share bits of our experiences and ourselves with our friends. If someone is at a particularly impressive landmark or doing something they think is extraordinary, it would make sense for them to try and share that moment with their friends.
If a friend taking a selfie in front of a grand spectacle or monument devalues the image of that spectacle or moment, what exactly does that say about that friend? We should want to see the people we care about doing things that interest them, or intrigue them, or that just catch their attention.
The selfie isn’t about trying to cultivate a specific image or look—though, granted, that can factor into the equation now and then. The selfie is about capturing a fleeting moment of a person’s life. Sharing selfies is like sharing a little bit of yourself, being honest and open with the people around you; those people that you care about and who care about you.